The Third Degree

Does anybody else ever feel like they are being interrogated when they are on a date?  It happens to me every time.  I hardly ever have an opportunity to eat anything because I’m constantly bombarded with questions.

How Dates Sometimes Feel to Me

I went on a blind date today.  Fortunately, I arrived before he did so I could catch a glimpse of what he looked like before we met and he’d never see my first reaction.  Also fortunate is that my first reaction was not shock, dismay, or terror.  He seemed like a well put together individual.

People keep asking me how it went and if I’d be interested in seeing him again.  The truth:  I don’t have any idea.  You see, I hardly know anything about him.  I hardly got a question in edgewise.

I get riddled with questions from my dates every time.  Evidently  I lead a pretty exciting and entertaining life, and I must be a lot of fun to hear.  It’s like rapid fire question after question after question.  Unless you ask a question about dogs… and then I’m just going to talk for twenty minutes or so without giving you an opportunity to ask any other questions or change the topic.

How I Imagine Dates See Me

Most dates feel more like an interrogation than an actual date.  And while I’m getting more and more comfortable talking about my life, work, and experiences, there is still a part of me that is instinctively evasive.  I don’t mean to be.  It just happens sometimes.  Especially if questions get too specific to be comfortable.

So, I left the date feeling more like I’d just been to a job interview.  It didn’t help that he was dressed in a button-down shirt and tie.  But apparently I passed the interview, and Human Resources is interested in a second series of interviews because he already sent a text message tonight asking if I brought my bathing suit and if I would like to go hot-tubbing tomorrow evening.  Isn’t that just like a man… trying to get me out of my clothes as quickly as possible?

While a hot tub sounds glorious in this nine degree weather… I think I’m going to have to take a rain check on this one.  I have too many people left to see before I hit the road again and way too much to do to be ready.

Rapid change of topic:  How do you like the new Stubby Thumb banner?  TST got a facelift this year.

Stay tuned for more on the topic of dating.  Like when I lament about meeting people online and how I always seem to find awesome friends, but no real romantic interests.  And how I can keep people enthralled in person, but struggle to write anything even remotely personable for an online profile.  And how I refuse to actually pay for membership so I have a ton of unread messages in my inbox, which I feel bad about, but not enough to spend money just to exchange contact information.  I think it’s because I’m old-fashioned and would rather meet someone at a barn-raising or something.  I will say this… there are a ton of cool people on LDSSingles.  Actually, I guess you don’t have to stay tuned because that sums it all up right there.

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2 Responses to The Third Degree

  1. Walter says:

    If you are even half as entertaining in person as you are here, why wouldn’t someone want to know more about you? Let’s face it, you are more interesting than most people you may encounter. We are the sum total of our life experiences and you’ve experienced more in the last few years than many have had in their lifetime. You are just that awesome.

    As for wanting to see you in a bathing suit, have you looked in a mirror lately? Go ahead, take a minute. Drink yourself in. I’ll wait.

    Got it? Good. Now imagine I had something witty or inspirational to say here. My train of thought rode out on a rail and isn’t due back anytime soon. Just trust that when you do find someone, these trials will allow you to appreciate the joy, the love that much more.

  2. gris says:

    WHOA! Unless you both felt that… spark, then he is skipping a few steps here (I don’t know how many- just some) regardless of what you will be wearing. By the way, does he know about this blog??? I went on one blind date in college, and it was definitely blog-worthy.

    On the other hand, and it’s hard for me to say this, but is it even remotely possible that he has actually taken the advice of dating gurus who tell men to be interested in “the girl” (as opposed to the woman)? Maybe he is new to the listening game (still a mark against him) but trying (a good thing)?

    Oh!! Good for you for arriving before he did! I am not about to tell you whether or not to see him again, rather, I will offer this piece of unsolicited advice: Did this guy come with references/gossip from anyone you know? If you ever go out with him again, station some spies in the same locale. That way you will have a rescue squad/approval committee. ; )

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